You try to be kind, but people don’t warm to you. You reason that you aren’t a “people person.” You get frustrated that people you judge as lower than you on the social ladder are more popular....CONTINUE READING
The good and bad news is this is your fault. You can take steps to change and improve your life by taking responsibility.
There are many small things we do that make us less likable. The first step is becoming aware of your shortcomings.
1. Humble bragging and cockiness.
Confidence is great, but there’s a fine line. There’s nothing more pathetic than people who brag about themselves but pretend to be self-deprecating.
Maybe you make fun of yourself for being a geek when you want people to know how smart you are. You might complain about your healthy eating plan to draw attention to your fitness level.
Not only are you bragging, but you’re also being deceptive. This tactic dominates the conversation, and you end up known as the person that makes every conversation about yourself.
Everyone gets the monologue about how great you are, what a fantastic job you did, and why you’re so special. The only way people will start liking you more is to get outside your head. Focus on the other person.
Learn to listen actively. Care about what they have to say. Don’t just wait for them to shut up so you can get your next boast in. They’ll flock to you if you make them feel good about themselves.
2. Gossiping.
People aren’t stupid. They know that if you’re gossiping to them, you’ll be gossiping about them. Relishing other people’s misfortune makes you look spiteful and low energy. People will come away from you feeling drained.
If the gossip ever gets back to the target, you’ve just made an enemy. All because you thought this was the way to popularity. You briefly felt like the center of…CONTINUE READING>>
