Being a responsible parent is something every father or mother owe their children and society at large. As a parent who wants to produce children that will be academic genius and morally sound, it becomes important to teach them the right values that will create an enabling environment that facilitates learning and will also make them grow into the desired adult you seek....CONTINUE READING
To achieve this as a parent, you must abstain from certain practices, most especially the ones that are aimed at demeaning your children’s emotions and confidence. See them below.
1. Comparing them with others, especially their friends.
I understand the frustration of having a child who isn’t sound academically or in other expected areas, but comparing them with their peers who are probably doing well isn’t the best approach to take. Many a time, this sort of comparison usually trigger a feeling of hatred for their friends which might result in a lack of interest and commitment to their studies.
Instead of using the comparison scheme, why not motivate them with stories of global personalities who have encountered a similar challenge and are doing well today? Doing this will greatly inspire them to change their attitude positively.
2. Telling them how badly behaved your spouse is.
For one reason or the other, most parents are fond of reporting the shortcomings and flaws of their partner to their children which isn’t the proper thing to do as a parent. If you are having a challenge with your partner, simply keep it away from your children and settle the matter privately with your spouse.
Involving your children in any misunderstanding you have with your partner might make them develop hatred for their parent and might extend the hatred in their dealings with anyone of that gender. For instance, revealing the mistakes of your husband to your children might make them hate their father and any other male they come across.
3. Using derogatory words on them.
Most parents are fond of using abusive and demeaning words on their children, probably to express their dismay or disapproval over their ill attitude. Nonetheless; it is still improper and unjustifiable for a parent to use profane words on their children.
Using words like ‘stupid’, ‘good for nothing, ‘foolish’ and other words that suggest profanity is a form of abuse that can be detrimental to your child’s emotional and psychological state. So, the next time your child offends you, conform to a more relaxed and patient way of dealing with the situation instead of using curse words on them.
4. Using swearing words in their presence.
Similar to the previous point, using swearing slang and expressions that portrays insult and abuse in front of your kids is a quick way of corrupting their morals and communication.
For instance, using the ‘F’ word and other profane words in their presence will only permit them to use these expressions while talking with others. Hence, parents should desist from practices of this sort.
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