I’m hoping some outside input or just venting might help with my situation. I’ve been married for close to 30 years and my wife and I have two handsome and very successful sons, one of whom has given us our only granddaughter. Life should be good, right?...CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLE>>>
Not so. I’m stuck in a loveless, sexless marriage. My “roommate”, as I call my wife, had to have female surgery and to cut a long story short, we have not had sex in 15 years.
However, I’ve come to find out that she’s been satisfying herself! It’s all too clear now – I could never, well almost never, satisfy her, so she did the job. I’m not into porn and I’m not the type of man who would ever cheat.
I suppose you’re wondering how I know she pleasures herself? I caught myself getting excited about seeing her nude, so I put a camera in the shower. Yes, I know how screwed up that is, but so is cheating on your spouse. She basically pleasures herself every morning before she goes to work, while I’m sexually frustrated.
Please advise.
If it’s loveless as well as sexless, why are you still there or why haven’t you told your wife how you feel? Communication, guys! OK, first of all, let’s address the spy cam in the shower. I’m shocked and don’t know what to say to you, except take it out immediately.
“Screwed up” doesn’t begin to cover it. You don’t need me to tell you how wrong that is and if your wife ever found out about it, I’m pretty sure she’d dump you and contact a lawyer, so you wouldn’t need to worry about your loveless, sexless marriage any more. You need to admit to each other that neither of you is happy and talk about where you go from here.
Maybe it’s a case of you did a great job as parents, raised two great sons, but have lost “us” somewhere along the line, but let’s call it quits and we can both move on and be happy. Or you can try to fix it, but it takes effort – you have to go back to the drawing board and find ways to get excited by each other again.
Clearly, her libido is alive and well, and hasn’t been affected by surgery, but she does not want to engage with you or perhaps she thinks you don’t want to engage with her.
Some people are very happy to be companions later on in life, but it doesn’t sound to me as if either of you is happy with that. You’re both still interested in sex, but it’s just not happening between you.
You’re discovering that it’s possible to feel incredibly lonely, even when you are one half of a couple…CONTINUE READING>>
