A wife was left in turmoil after she discovered that her husband was cheating on her with a co-worker. The heartbreaking situation then evolved into a convoluted tangle of emotions when she found herself falling in love with the other woman’s partner....CONTINUE READING
In a long, revealing post on Reddit, the mum in her late 30s explained: “I found out a year ago that my husband is sleeping with his employee, how? Her husband, let’s call him ‘J’, contacted me. He was heartbroken and he thought that I ought to know. He provided me with text messages and dated when they’ve been in hotels.”
The pair decided to meet up and discuss what they wanted to do and, because the wife had lost her job during the pandemic and was now studying, it was decided that they would wait until she completed her education.
She went on: “If I divorce now I won’t be able to provide for my daughter. that would probably put her in my husband’s custody as a primary provider.
“I asked him if he could wait for a few months, hopefully longer therefore and to my surprised he agreed. I thanked him profusely but he told me that he didn’t know what to do either so he’s happy to wait.” They kept in touch and eventually ended up going for walks and coffees, talking and laughing about a range of topics. Even going to the cinema together.
She admitted: “I found myself thinking about him often with a smile on my face. He was the first thing I thought of in the morning and the last thing I thought of before going to bed.” One day, J confessed that he was in love with her – and she realised she felt the same way too.
However, she had fears over her true emotions, telling him that, “I’m terrified that these are false feelings that would go away once we’ve freed ourselves from those who hurt us,” but, “he just beamed at me and said he was willing to take the risk just to find out.”
The plan was to wait until she had finished her studies before then “exposing” their spouses and leaving their marriages. “Am I pathetic for wanting to give J and I a shot and see where it would go? Can two broken hearts really find happiness together when their love story started like ours?” she wondered?
An update post 10 days later, though, revealed that she was full of “confusion” and had decided to stop seeing J and focus on securing a future for her and her daughter. She said: “I got home my husband had already picked up our daughter and they were just joking around and having fun.
“I felt so much sadness and pure horror building up inside me. What am I doing? What are we doing? All of us? The guilt that washed over me seeing my daughters happy face playing around with her food. I couldn’t take it.” Her husband’s infidelity turned her against him so much that she couldn’t bear to touch him and wanted to scream “liar!” in his face.
She added: “I looked at my husband and tried to remember what I loved about him but I couldn’t. All I could see is his texts to her, about how great last time was and what he wanted to do to her next. I felt immense rage and hatred towards my husband but also towards myself and J.”
All this was too much and so she sent J a “long text” explaining her feelings and how her daughter will be the one to suffer from a broken home. He called her up but she felt she couldn’t pick up the phone: “My heart was swollen in my throat.
I told my husband that I wanted to sleep in my daughter’s room tonight, something I’ve been doing a lot since this all started. I cried all night watching her beautiful face so peaceful and happy.”
The following morning she spoke with J, who said he respected her wishes to stop seeing each other but that he still would wait for her. She wrote: “I cried for a good hour afterwards already missing his voice.
I know that my marriage is unsalvageable and that I’m doing the right thing leaving it even with the nagging feeling of guilt that’s simmering beneath the surface, boiling over every now and then waking me up at night but I need to do this alone now.”
Although she admitted that the guilt “will probably never go away entirely” she can carry on because, “at least it won’t have J’s face now he’s not in the picture anymore.” The woman’s heartbreaking post was likened to the life of country and western superstar Shania Twain, who’s husband cheated on her with her best pal.
One person commented: “Her husband Mutt cheated on her with her best friend. She divorced her husband and married the ex-husband of the affair partner.
I don’t know if they’re still together though but good for them and I hope they are still together.” While others compared it to the plotlines of various films such as ‘Random Hearts’ and ‘In The Mood For Love’.
Many Reddit users replied with similar tales of cheating parents, uncles and friends, as one said: “Happened with my parents too! My dad (the cheater) and the woman he was with aren’t together anymore.” Another attempted to explain the psychology of cheating and said: “The thing about affairs is that everything that makes them feel so addictively good tends to vanish once the divorce finalizes and they’re allowed to be open…CONTINUE READING>>
