Many of us strive to be in happy, loving, and passionate relationships — with the people we love, the people we’re attracted to, the people who are attracted to us…but to be in a relationship with someone that’s made with us in mind can feel like a magical union that makes our lives just better despite not being perfect....CONTINUE READING
But how can you tell if a woman is the one for you?
1. You feel respected.
Consider it yourself: A relationship where you feel nothing close to being respected will certainly be everything but satisfying for you. In case it might not be obvious to you, yes, being in a relationship where you’re not respected can have several effects on both your emotional well-being and the overall dynamics of the relationship.
To be more specific;
Lack of respect in a relationship can lead to significant emotional distress. It can erode your self-esteem and self-worth, causing frustration, feelings of inadequacy, and sadness.
So what I mean is this, although it might sound a bit old-school-ish, the desire for respect has been and will always be a fundamental aspect of men’s self-worth. And being respected by partners, friends, and colleagues plays a crucial role in our satisfaction and engagement in various areas of life.
Imagine being in a relationship with a woman who constantly oversteps your boundaries, criticizes you endlessly, robs you of the freedom to make decisions, or even dismisses your ideas, minimizes your accomplishments, or frequently overrules you when you speak.
The more you feel disrespected, the more you feel a sense of isolation and detachment. It’s safe to say that you’ll feel alienated in such a relationship.
In the right, healthy relationship, you’ll most often than not, feel respected, valued, and loved. You’ll feel the kind of love and respect that will boost your self-esteem and make you feel nothing like inadequate.
No, this doesn’t mean that your self-worth or self-respect should be entirely dependent on how well a woman respects you. On the contrary, much of your self-worth, self-esteem, and respect should come from within. But a woman that truly sees, loves, and respects you for who you are, is a keeper that’s probably made with you in mind.
Sure, respect is ideally a two-way street in any healthy relationship. But for the sake of this post, the emphasis of this point is on the importance of a woman’s respect for her man. But this doesn’t mean that it isn’t important for a man to respect his partner as much as she respects him.
Because when mutual respect is present in a relationship, it becomes a solid pillar that strengthens the connection and contributes to a harmonious and fulfilling partnership.
2. She doesn’t in any way threaten your identity.
In all my years of relationship blogging and writing, I’ve noticed that a lot of discussions about relationships revolve around two variations of “A” words.
Yes, you guessed it right: Acceptance.
But the thing is, just as it’s important for a love interest to love, acknowledge, approve, and Accept you in her life as her partner, it’s also important for her to Accept your identity and support your individuality.
The kind of acceptance I’m talking about here is felt when you don’t constantly feel pressured to mold yourself to fit her desires.
It is felt when the relationship environment she creates doesn’t prompt you to suppress your interests, feelings, opinions, and even needs.
It is felt when it doesn’t seem like you’re losing parts or all of yourself to become a reflection of the woman you’re in a relationship with just to earn and keep her affection.
When a woman is the one for you, she will encourage you to be your authentic self, express your unfiltered self, pursue your passions, and even maintain a strong sense of identity.
She’ll appreciate and support your individuality, which will come from the place of understanding that it is an essential part of who you are — that she loves and cherishes.
Because to maintain a healthy relationship, both individuals need to grow and thrive while maintaining their unique identities. So pay attention to how your woman respects and supports your identity as it indicates if she’s the one for you or not.
3. It doesn’t feel like you’re taken advantage of.
A woman who’s the one for you will never make you feel like your efforts aren’t appreciated. She won’t simply fail to recognize or be mindful of the big and small efforts you put into the relationship — because she isn’t preoccupied with her own concerns and she’s well aware of the significance of your efforts.
Anyone can have certain expectations about how their partner should behave or contribute to the relationship, but only a woman who’s so obsessed with her unmet expectations (that are mostly unrealistic or uncommunicated) will often overlook or dismiss other gestures — since she’s focused on what she perceives as lacking or unfulfilled.
But a woman that’s for you won’t feel so entitled to certain behaviors or actions from you that she’ll take for granted every other effort and (hard)work you put into the relationship.
4. You have a partner and not a 2nd mom.
I’ve repeated this idea more than once throughout this post: Love is a partnership between two unique people who bring out the very best in each other.
And while this is true, it also means that while it’s great for a man and a woman to motivate positive change in each other, it’s something entirely different for a woman (or man) to leave the other person feeling controlled or infantilized.
A woman who’s right for you will also inspire and motivate you to grow and improve, but not at the expense of your individuality and autonomy that it feels like she’s just another mom instead of a loving partner.
She simply loves and supports your personal growth just enough to avoid a parental dynamic — where she assumes the role of a mother because she knows that doing so won’t only make you feel controlled, but will in the long run, lead to a decrease in attraction and sense of diminished masculinity in her eyes as the woman, which won’t be great for the relationship.
5. She often makes out time for you.
In a world consumed by busy schedules and endless responsibilities, finding someone who consistently carves out time for you can be a rare gem. When it comes to building a lasting and fulfilling relationship, quality time is more than just a luxury — it’s an essential ingredient that can make all the difference.
Picture this: It’s been a long day, and you find yourself engulfed in a whirlwind of stress. But as you walk through the door, exhausted and craving solace, there she is — ready to give you her undivided attention. She understands that amidst the chaos of life, creating moments of togetherness is crucial for your well-being.
Unlike relationships where time together feels like an afterthought, with her, it’s different. She goes beyond simply coexisting with you; she actively seeks out opportunities to connect on a deeper level.
Whether it’s planning spontaneous date nights or dedicating a lazy Sunday morning to explore new adventures, she consistently shows up and invests in your shared experiences.
Again, it’s no secret that our lives are overflowing with obligations and commitments.
But despite the demands of work, family, and personal pursuits, she understands that nurturing your relationship requires intentional effort. Her making time for you amidst her busy schedule demonstrates a genuine commitment to the growth and well-being of your partnership.
6. She trusts you just as you trust her.
In a world where skepticism and doubt often prevail, finding someone who believes in you wholeheartedly is truly remarkable. Mutual trust creates a powerful dynamic, allowing both partners to let their guard down and embrace vulnerability. It’s a refreshing departure from relationships tainted by suspicion and constant questioning.
Think about it logically — the absence of trust breeds an atmosphere of uncertainty and unease. When trust is lacking, doubts and insecurities can fester, poisoning the relationship from within.
Conversely, when trust forms the foundation, it provides a solid ground for love to flourish, enabling both partners to feel emotionally secure and supported.
Some may argue that trust should be blindly given, but that’s not the case here. Trust is earned, nurtured, and reciprocated. It’s a two-way street where both partners actively demonstrate their reliability, consistency, and integrity. When trust is mutual, it becomes a testament to the strength of the bond you share.
Picture a relationship where you can be your authentic self without fear of judgment or rejection. A relationship where open communication thrives, allowing you both to express your thoughts, dreams, and fears without hesitation. Trust empowers you to be transparent, fostering an environment of acceptance and understanding.
However, it’s important to acknowledge that trust can be broken. Betrayal or a breach of confidence can shatter the foundation you’ve built.
But even in the face of such challenges, trust can be restored through open dialogue, forgiveness, and a genuine commitment to rebuilding what was lost. It’s a testament to the resilience of love and the willingness to heal together.
The thing is, when a woman places her trust in you just as you trust her, it signifies a relationship based on authenticity, emotional security, and mutual support.
It speaks volumes about the strength of your connection and the potential for a lasting partnership. Embrace the trust you share, nurture it, and let it guide you toward a future filled with love and unwavering faith in each other.
7. She makes you feel like a priority.
The right woman for you often knows your worth and value in her life. She’ll never in any way make you feel the need to prove your worth and value to her all the time. Instead, she’ll often make you feel like you matter because she values, respects, and loves you.
Even if you’ve both been in the relationship for let’s say, many years, and she knows she need not put in massive efforts to win you over — since you’re hers already, you’re still on her top priority list and not in the back seat in her life.
I mean to say that despite numerous responsibilities and obligations that come with life and even commitment like marriage, career, kids, etc, the one for you will still find a balance between other competing priorities and foster a sense of value, connection, and fulfillment for you in the relationship.
The very wrong partners won’t only leave you drowning at the bottom of their priority list, but will often leave you feeling undervalued, unwanted, and wallowing in resentment, frustration, and emotional isolation.
A woman that’s the one for you will just know that prioritizing you as much as you prioritize her is crucial for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling union.
8. She gives you peace.
In the journey of love, passion often takes center stage, but we must not overlook the significance of peace. It is the anchor that keeps a relationship steady amidst the storms.
Just as a ship needs balance to sail smoothly, a relationship needs harmony to thrive. While passion brings intensity, peace provides the tranquility, stability, and emotional well-being that allow love to flourish.
True intimacy extends beyond grand gestures and passionate encounters. It resides in the quiet moments shared between partners.
Picture a Sunday morning, lazily intertwined in bed, or an evening spent on the couch, basking in each other’s presence.
These seemingly ordinary occasions hold immense power. They offer a glimpse into the depth of connection, where peace is found in the simplicity of being together. It is in these moments that you truly know she is the one — when peace envelops you both.
Again, life can be a whirlwind, a constant flurry of responsibilities, deadlines, and demands.
Yet, in the chaos, she becomes your sanctuary. Peace in a relationship acts as a refuge, a place where you can retreat and find solace.
It is an escape from the outside world, a cocoon of serenity where both of you can recharge, find comfort, and rejuvenate your spirits. Together, you create a haven where peace reigns, allowing you to face the challenges of life hand-in-hand.
Conversely, the absence of peace takes its toll. A relationship devoid of tranquility can drain your emotional reserves.
It breeds tension, stress, and unease, magnifying the strain between you and your partner. Without peace, the connection becomes a constant battle, leaving both parties exhausted and emotionally depleted.
Recognizing the significance of peace underscores its essential role in nurturing a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
The truth is, peace creates an environment where you can be your authentic self, free from pretense or fear of judgment.
It is in this space that you can truly settle into the relationship. Finding peace with each other brings comfort — a deep sense of ease that allows vulnerability and fosters emotional closeness.
It is within this embrace of peace that you discover the freedom to grow together, to explore the depths of love, and to build a lasting connection…CONTINUE READING>>
