Once you become a father, everything you do will have an impact on your children, be it positively or negatively. Some dads do some things as a means of protection for their children that turn out to be harmful. Here are five harmful behaviors that dads should avoid....CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLE>>>
1. Using your childhood baggage on your kids.
No one is born into a perfect family with a flawless upbringing. To some degree, almost all of us carry baggage from our childhoods into adulthood.
Examples of that baggage are: “my father doesn’t teach me how to drive a car; I won’t teach my children,” and “my father used to beat me when I was young, I will also beat my children.” One of the negative consequences of this baggage is that if you don’t unpack it (which sometimes involves the help of a counselor), it can create baggage for your children.
2. Helicopter Parenting
No father wants his children to suffer. But there is a narrow line between not wanting your children to suffer and trying to protect them from everything. Your kids may not develop the ability to face hardship if you always protect them from every possible negative consequence.
3. Overreacting
Children are unpredictable. In some situations, you can see them display wonder, compassion, and creativity in extraordinary ways. As they make you laugh, they can also do some things that frustrate you.
When they do something bad, the best thing to do is to correct them and discipline them carefully if necessary. Don’t yell or scream at them. Sometimes, they also know that they made a mistake.
4. Telling Lies
Dads should be able to rely on their children. If you promise to play a game with them or take them out but don’t fulfill your promise, they may get upset and start to believe that you can’t be trusted.
It’s a bad thing if children cannot trust their fathers to be honest and open with them. If you can’t afford what your kids are asking you now, don’t promise them. Instead, do it as a surprise when you have it. They will love it.
Making Excuses for Their Bad Behaviors
Wouldn’t it be great if all of your bad habits disappeared the moment you became a father? Unfortunately, some bad habits are difficult to break. But as you become a father, you need to quit all your bad habits. Your kids are looking up to you, and they will keep practicing what you are doing.
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