How would you feel if you found out your wife cheated on you more than 18 years ago?...CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLE>>>
If you found out your partner was unfaithful you would likely see it as a serious breach of trust, and you would most likely be devastated. But would it make any difference if you knew it happened more than 18 years ago, before you were even married ?
When a man found out his wife had slept with a whopping 26 different men he was understandably devastated, but as it had happened when they were at university, she didn’t think it mattered. Now the man is considering getting a divorce – or at least getting payback by sleeping with the same amount of women.
The man explained that he and his wife had started dating in secondary school, and even back then “dreamt of a married life, what we’d name our kids, where we’d live, etc”. When it came to university, they went to separate schools, but he “tried to see her almost every weekend and I thought our relationship was going well”.
However, after recently going to a party with some mutual friends, and reminiscing about growing up, one of their pals dropped a massive bombshell. In a Reddit post, the anonymous man explained: “One of her friends let it slip that she was wild at university.
I almost missed it but when I looked over at my wife, her face was pale, and she was giving her friend ‘the look’. I decided not to make a big scene of it at the party or while we were driving home, but she could tell something was wrong by the way I kind of shut down after that.”
When they got home from the party, and their sons (aged 12 and 15) had gone to bed, he “asked her point blank about what her friend had said”.
He continued: “She went back and forth a little before eventually admitting that she was heavily involved in clubbing during university and that had led to her having several hookups and even a few regular FWB [Friends With Benefits] situations but she maintained that she was just an immature kid back then so I shouldn’t hold it against her.
At this point, I was afraid I’d do something I’d regret so I immediately left the house to spend the night at a hotel. Throughout the night his wife sent him messages and called him, switching between “spewing out excuses” and saying she loved him.
He continued: “Throughout all of this she maintained her opinion that it’s ‘no big deal’ and things are different now because we’re married.
They aren’t different for me. The fact we’ve been married for 18 years makes absolutely no difference to the fact that she is a cheater. This entire time I thought we shared something special, that we were both each other’s first and only’s but it was all a lie.”
After a few days he decided to ask how many men she’d slept with, and she reluctantly explained that it “came to around 26 men ranging from one to 30 encounters”. After careful thought, he told her he would like to “reconcile”, but that he would be “sleeping with 26 women”, and this was a “non-negotiable condition”.
He continued: “Since then, she’s been trying to change my mind, crying day and night before having fits of anger, offering anything I want except that, but nothing is going to move me. She either accepts it, or we divorce. I’ve given her until the end of this week (Friday) to come to a decision.”
The post has since received 100s of responses, with one person writing: “You don’t want reconciliation, you just want revenge. Your plan if the marriage continues, of sleeping with 26 women whenever you you want and without telling her, means that you can hold this over her head for years and destroy her happiness and self-esteem.”
Another added: “Having sex with these women will not make you feel better. Either forgive her and let it go or get a divorce,” while a third said: “Just leave. No need to retaliate like that. Besides, it was along time ago. I would be more on board if it was while married.”
Another wrote: “Look bud, in any conflict with a partner, there are only two real possibilities – work it out or leave. Seems like you’ve made your decision. Do your kids a favour though, and don’t drag it out. Get in touch with your lawyers, and make your break…CONTINUE READING>>
