The longer you let an unspoken problem fester inside of you, the more hurt you will feel. Here is what you can do to take control of the situation....CONTINUE READING
Communicate
Let your husband know gently how you are feeling. Tell him you don’t feel as close to him as you once were. Ask if there is anything you can do to help you bond together again. This may open up the conversation and allow both partners to share their issues.
Don’t play the blame game
When you bring up your lack of emotional connection to your husband, it’s important not to play the blame game.
Do not tell him that it is his fault that you feel disconnected. This will get him defensive and create unhealthy communication. Instead, express your desire to be as connected to him as you once were.
Schedule date nights
Date nights are essential for a happy marriage, especially for those who have children. Even though you are now parents, it’s important not to forget that you are still mates who have fun together.
Scheduling a date night once a week and religiously following it will create a deeper emotional connection for both parties.
Take up a hobby together, go out for dinner and a movie, jog together, or simply go out for drinks. Whatever you do, make sure it is something that you both enjoy, where you will be able to talk and share with one another as you used to do when you were in the dating phase of your relationship.
Have sex
This may be difficult to do, especially if you feel no emotional connection, but having sex is going to be beneficial to both of you. Sex that results in orgasm is one of the biggest doses of oxytocin, or “the love drug” you will ever get.
For women, this hormone is released post-orgasm and creates an intimate bond of trust by stimulating certain brain sensors.
Also, remember the signs of emotional connection you felt once from him, start working on things that used to make him smile, and you will see the difference soon!
Oxytocin also stimulates bonding and empathy. For men, sex with a partner stimulates the reward center of their brain and releases a rush of dopamine through the body…CONTINUE READING>>
