Being a woman is not easy. We are expected to live up to societal expectations; live our lives a certain way and deal with the pressure of accomplishing things at a certain age. With the constant reminder that our biological clock is ticking, we are always in a hurry to figure out our lives, in terms of career and family life…CONTINUE READING>>...CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLE>>>
Dealing with these stresses is not a walk in the park. It becomes tedious and hurtful when we are constantly asked about certain issues regarding our lives. Here are some of the questions.
I don’t think anyone deserves to be asked this question. I find it offensive, inappropriate, and unnecessary. It’s like most people use this to measure your worth.
I assume if you say a 100, the guy if on a date, will swallow a fork or run for his dear life.
Body count shouldn’t be used to determine whether a person can get in to a serious relationship or whether they’ll be able to stay with one person.
If a man is genuinely concerned about a woman, he shouldn’t be bothered by her past or the number of men she has been with before. I heard someone say they shouldn’t be asked their body count because they lost count. So 1 or 200, there’s more to a woman than her body count.
I’m sure you’ve come across stories with titles like 10 signs you are ready for marriage or something of the sort. In families, this question will come up anywhere. In weddings, dinner tables, even the hospital. A story is told of an old man in his death bed asking his granddaughter if she was married yet.
You’d think a dying man has more important things to say.
The pressure to get married is usually immense particularly if you are the firstborn and your siblings have a family, or you are in your 30’s or close to that. In an African family, you can be in university and they’ll ask when they’ll attend your wedding.
We live in an age of liberation, where some women have decided they are never going to get married
while others want to, but they haven’t found someone to settle with. Everyone has their reason why they are single and their reasons are valid. Furthermore, we all have different timings, so let people be.
You may ask this question from a place of concern and care, but it may not seat well with the receiver. Getting pregnant may seem like an easy task but it’s not for some women.
There are those unable to get children due to a medical condition or infertility. Those who have been trying to get pregnant for a long time, but have not been successful. Those who choose not to have children and those who are not ready,
maybe because they want to focus on their career or are unsure of the timing.
This is a sensitive topic and should be approached with caution, especially if you are talking to someone whose life you are not familiar with.
Don’t assume everyone has it easy or that everyone loves children. Asking someone when they are going to have another baby, is intrusive. You may end up hurting them, particularly if they lost a baby and you are unaware of that.
I have never understood the obsession women have with other women’s bodies.
This is of course a rhetorical question but I believe if someone has put on weight, they are aware of it and don’t need a reminder. Someone will see you after a long time and ask, so what size do your wear nowadays? Some will go to the extent of asking you if you will finish all the food on your plate
and even suggest you include more vegetables and fruits in your diet. If they are not asking about weight gain. It’s weight loss. This is more painful when you have lost weight because of a medical condition.
If someone is not comfortable enough to tell you what happened in her relationship, don’t poke your nose in their business. It’s rude and offensive.
They have a reason why they didn’t tell you about it. They might be dealing with anger, loss, and stress and don’t want to be reminded about their pain.
Let’s respect people’s boundaries and be content with the information they give us. People want to move on with their life without being constantly asked why they are single…CONTINUE READING>>
