My girl won’t let me masturbate,’ an anonymous confession from a 25-year-old reads. The user took to Reddit to share his experience and ask for support after an ongoing discussion with his girlfriend left him feeling trapped....CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLE>>>
Of course, masturbation is normal and even healthy in relationships. However, some people don’t like the idea of their partner having solo fun, particularly without them.
The Reddit user said he enjoys himself as much as ‘the typical man does my age, maybe once a day give or take.’
‘My girlfriend and I keep arguing because she knows that’s why I take a while in the shower, I’ve been telling her if she doesn’t like it then that’s a problem because I’m a man and I need my release of sexual tension.’
But the story takes a turn when he reveals the reason why his partner doesn’t like him having daily solo time.
‘She gets upset because I won’t let her do it for me. I’ve told her it’s nothing with her or me wanting something different it’s just a different kind of release.’
So, is it possible to navigate masturbation whilst in a relationship? The answer is a resounding yes.
As Dr Laura Vowels, principal researcher and sex therapist at sex therapy app, Blueheart, previously told Metro.co.uk: ‘It’s completely normal to want to masturbate without your partner present; solo masturbation is a great way to explore your own sexuality and can add welcome dynamism to your normal sex routine, especially if you have a long-term partner.
And, when you’re flying solo, it’s ‘perfectly natural to want privacy during this time, either by using a private space, or waiting until your partner’s out of the house.’
However, when masturbation starts to replace intimacy with your partner, that could present some issues, Dr Laura advised.
‘Masturbation shouldn’t be used as a replacement for sex with your partner, as this could indicate some underlying intimacy complications within your relationship,’ said Dr Laura.
Likewise, communication is key.
‘If you find yourself or your partner doing this, make sure to have an open conversation about why they may be withdrawing from your sex life, and work to address these problems together,’ she added.
One way to compromise is to enjoy solo fun together, in this case focusing on your own body while your partner focuses on themselves.
‘You may even want to consider whether you might like to masturbate together or in each other’s presence. This may initially feel scary, but it can add to the intimacy between you and your partner,’ suggested Dr Laura.
‘Research suggests that a healthy masturbation life can increase satisfaction during sex with a partner, and even elevate your libido levels.’
All in all, nobody should feel pressured into doing something they don’t want to. And, as always, communication is the most important thing..<<CONTINUE READING>>
