A DATING coach has shown that even she isn’t immune to dating disasters. Navigating work-based relationships can be tricky at the best of times, but hers was a decidedly rocky experience....CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLE>>>
She had dated a guy at work who insisted that “no one can ever know.” But she was horrified when she discovered the real reason after he ghosted her at the office.
These days Dani Coco ( @dani.coco1 ) says she would not put up with similar behavior. But she was younger and less wise to such shenanigans.
She shared her experience hoping it might help someone going through similar dating traumas. And there were plenty of those in the comments to her video.
San Diego Dani shares “dating advice and stories, on her TikTok. “Possibly my most unhinged dating story,” she said in her post.
“So one time I dated a man I worked with. It was just one of those offices, and everyone was dating each other,” she said.
“But he was adamant that nobody at the office could know.” The procedure at her workplace was that any dating among workers should be declared in the interests of openness and transparency.
“He wasn’t my superior so it would not have been a big deal. But he said no one can ever know,” she added. “Now at the age I am, with my life experience, I would have said, okay, bye.
“But at the time I was like, fine, he’s just a private person.” He did try to justify his position by saying any knowledge of the relationship would ruin his chances of promotion.
“I should have run for the hills. I didn’t know better,” she said. Even going out for dinner became cloaked in intrigue when he insisted they go in separate cars.
“He would make me take my car because he didn’t want us to be seen together, which is ridiculous because people knew we were friends.”
But, after several months of dating, things took a turn for the worse, and she didn’t see it coming. “I texted him one day, saying we should do something for the weekend.”
That was it. The end. The finish. Kaput. She never heard from him again. “He just stopped texting,” she said.
Back in the office he did not explain, avoided all eye contact, and would make excuses and excursions so as not to bump into her.
“He wouldn’t answer questions I sent in on our team chat, and would not engage with me,” she wrote. “I was so baffled I couldn’t even be angry. Eventually, he quit and we never spoke again.”
She might never have known the true reason behind his behavior if it wasn’t for a chance conversation with mutual friends.
“They told me that right before he quit, his long-term, long-distance girlfriend was moving in with him.
“That was the part that blew my mind. Because it wasn’t just him being a scumbag, it was how far in advance he thought about the fact,” she said.
Dani’s post brought back memories of dating hell from commenters. “My fiancé ghosted me after I found out he had a girlfriend of four years and he lived in my house and drove my car that was in my name,” was a horrible experience for one woman.
“I dated a co-worker who was moving in with his girlfriend who traveled a lot for her job. I only found out from the mail room guys because he was collecting boxes,” said another.
“Something similar happened to me until I started hanging out with a girl from work and she told me she was pregnant by him,” was the sorry tale from one person.
“Dated a guy for six months once. He came to my house every weekend until the weekend he didn’t and found out he got married that weekend to his long-term fiancé,” was an equally unfortunate experience from a second person…CONTINUE READING>>
