There is an idea that everything is subjective, and while that may be true in some areas, sex isn’t really one of them. With rare exception, there are some things that are generally considered to be unappealing and unattractive in bed. Read this post to make sure that you’re not doing any of these things!...CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLE>>>
1 Just laying there.
When women just lay there silently without moving while intercourse happens, this can be called acting like a “starfish.” (Picture a starfish for why.) Nobody likes to be partnered with someone who doesn’t engage or give/receive feedback.
This can make a man feel like he is having sex with you against your will, which no healthy man finds to be erotic (unless it is a consensual “scene” involving pretend “force”).
2Not reciprocating.
I’ve seen couples where the man refuses to go down on the woman even though she does it to him, and (more) of the inverse.
Unless your partner enjoys going down on you to the point that they don’t care if you reciprocate or not, then returning the favor makes you a good partner. Sex is part of life, and in any interpersonal relationship, reciprocation is a basic tenet of good relationships.
3 Refusing to take feedback.
I discuss here how to get genuine performance feedback from your wife, and the main way is not whining, complaining, or acting defensive when she tries to teach you something.
(Like this guy.) If your partner tells you what they like, and you keep doing whatever you were doing before they gave you feedback, then you are pretty obviously bad in bed. Also, it is highly likely that your defensiveness is sabotaging your relationship in more global ways.
4 Bad hygiene.
Women are particularly sensitive to smell, and a man brushing his teeth before an encounter can change sex from terrible to wonderful. Showering at least once a day and brushing teeth twice a day is baseline for having “good” hygiene.
5 Closedmindedness.
If you ever make fun of your partner’s need for touch or fantasies, then this is you. People who are closedminded do not like adventure or play, and are threatened by new things. Here’s a male example and here’s a female example. It is one thing to be more inhibited after the “drunk” new relationship energy/honeymoon stage, as discussed here…CONTINUE READING>>
