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You two look so good together. He’s perfect on paper. The sex is hot. You’re so tired of the dating scene. Blah, blah, blah.
Stop it! You know what you’re doing and you know you can do better. Here are very clear signs this is a situation-ship and not a relationship, and it’s going absolutely nowhere.
There are 24 hours in a day and each of those hours holds 60 minutes. Every single one of those minutes has 60 full seconds in them. Now, write a text. How long did it take? Yeah, he’s just not that into you.
One night, they’re into the relationship and the next you’re reenacting Adele’s “Hello.” Just as you’re giving up, they call to say they’ve thought about things.
They were a fool. Please take them back. Once you do, they’re gone again. Show them you stopped playing “girl chase boy” in grade school and run the other way.
You make sure their needs, wants and desires are met, which leaves literally zero room for you in their me, me, me world.
Gaslighting is a phrase
assigned to an emotional abuse technique that has one partner convincing the other that reality is an illusion. If your partner is denying they said and did things or blaming you for saying and doing things you didn’t, it’s abusive.
Healthy, normal adults know how to speak to and treat others like human beings. There’s no power or charm in being a jerk.
Whether it’s a religious belief they don’t share or a hobby they aren’t interested in, you don’t need to be with someone who can’t treat the things you value with respect.
Support is a lot more than just not saying they don’t support the things you’re doing. Do they show up when you need someone there? Do they stay up and help you practice your presentation, and show an active interest in how things are progressing? When you fall, are they there to catch you and offer you a hand backup? What’s the good of being with someone who doesn’t have your back?
Yes, it takes time to be invited home to meet the parents, but if you’re five months in and no one knows you beyond your name, he’s not serious about you.
Is your guy constantly picking fights with you and misinterpreting everything you say? Do you feel like you’re running around in circles and defending yourself even when you’re being nice? Unless you’re speaking in code, there’s a bigger problem and it has nothing to do with you.
Sorry is just a word unless there’s a real effort made to not make the same mistake again.
You’ve twisted yourself in so many directions and walked on so many eggshells that you’re exhausted.
Yes, you can still have dates and cuddle, but when the only compliments are about your body and all of your time together feels like a means to an end, it’s not love, but lust.
It’s fun to grab a drink on a Tuesday night, but if you’re never having dinner on a Saturday or laughing over brunch on a Sunday (without having slept over the night before), you might be questioning who is.
This is just an insult to your intelligence.
Sure, no one knows what really happens in a relationship, but your friends can definitely tell you when you’re not in one and not going to be.
You have full conversations that he cannot recollect. He’s heard you mention your April birthday five times but still swears you were born in June. If the only thing he remembers is your address and his favorite bra-and-panty set, there’s a problem.
He will share photos of his, but try to touch his heart and he freaks out.
Tears are expensive. Is he worth it?
We all know the couple who stayed together because they were too afraid (or lazy) to get back out there and meet the right person for them.
While it may be tempting initially to give into the “bird in the hand” mentality, don’t kid yourself. You’ll meet someone else and they will make you feel more than just safe — they’ll make you feel safe and butterflies.
Your gut instincts are almost never wrong.
Brenda Della Casa is the Author of Cinderella Was a Liar, The Managing Editor of Preston Bailey and Gotham Bandit, A Huffington Post Blogger, and the founder of BDC Life In Style…CONTINUE READING>>
