Love can be blinding – especially when it’s not real. There’s a huge difference between someone loving you and someone PRETENDING to love you. If you feel something’s off, trust your gut! Let’s expose the ugly red flags so you can protect yourself and stop wasting your time on someone who doesn’t deserve you....CONTINUE READING
1. It Happened WAY Too Fast.
“Love at first sight” makes for sweet movies, but reality often needs more time. They declared their undying love within weeks, showering you with adoration that feels overwhelming rather than romantic. Love bombing is a manipulative tactic to rush intimacy and mask ulterior motives.
2. Their Actions and Words Are Polar Opposites.
They sing praises and sweet-talk, but their actions consistently let you down. Broken promises, flaky behavior, and always putting themselves first create a chasm between what they claim to feel and how they show up. Actual love gets translated into deeds, not just poetic language.
3. You Feel Pressure to Reciprocate.
It’s always an unspoken expectation that you will match the intense emotions they profess to feel. If not, a hint of disappointment enters the mix. True love develops at its own pace, while manufactured love relies on pressure to mirror a specific intensity.
4. They Don’t Really KNOW You.
Despite claims of a deep connection, they lack genuine knowledge of your quirks, values, and inner world. Conversations skim the surface, focusing on generalities instead of the details that distinguish you. Real love develops curiosity about the layers of who you are.
5. There’s “I Love You” But No “I Like You.”
They may proclaim love but shy away from discussing what genuinely draws them to you. There’s a distinction between loving the idea of someone and actually liking them as a whole person. Admiration often precedes strong love, but it shouldn’t be completely absent early on.
6. They Only Focus on the Good Times.
Healthy relationships can handle conflict and work through difficulties. This person gets flustered at the first sign of tension and shies away from working through disagreements. They want a flawless fairy tale, not a real partnership with realistic ups and downs.
7. You’re Not a Real Priority.
Their needs and wants always eclipse yours. They expect you to drop everything for them, yet when you truly need them, excuses miraculously appear. Love shows up with consistency, even when inconvenient. Fakers are only there for the shiny, easy parts.
8. They Avoid Showing Real Vulnerability.
There’s a performative element to their displays of affection. Sharing your fears, past hurts, or deeper needs is met with discomfort or awkward subject-changing. Authentic love creates a safe space to unpack both joys and challenges. Fakers want the image of closeness, not genuine emotional intimacy.
9. They Struggle With Empathy.
When you’re upset, they minimize your feelings or turn the focus back onto themselves. If their own needs remain unmet, they express anger or disappointment instead of understanding. True love involves putting ourselves in our partner’s shoes – fakers simply lack that ability.
10. They Disappear at Convenient Times.
When they sense things are getting too serious, or real difficulties arise, they suddenly need “space” or vanish for stretches. This on/off approach keeps you hooked on the potential of the good while avoiding any kind of commitment or deeper attachment. It’s the emotional equivalent of ghosting.
11. Something Feels “Off” in Your Gut.
Intuition rarely fails us. That sense of unease, an inner voice questioning if this is for real, should not be ignored. Emotional manipulators play on your hopes and insecurities, trying to muddle your intuition. Take those instincts seriously.
12. They Avoid Introducing You to Loved Ones.
Integrating you into their world feels delayed or stalled by repeated excuses. If they were truly excited about the relationship, they would want to proudly share you with the people most important to them. Keeping you separate highlights a reluctance to integrate you into their genuine life.
11. They Undermine Your Goals.
A supportive partner uplifts your ambitions. If they belittle your dreams, offer passive-aggressive discouragement, or sabotage your efforts, that’s not love. Real partners seek to see each other thrive.
12. They Gaslight Your Reality.
Gaslighting is a serious form of manipulation. If they continuously make you question your own memories, twist the narrative of events, or make you doubt your sanity, it’s a giant red flag. Love doesn’t seek to tear you down but build you up.
13. They Hold Back Affection To Punish You.
Love shouldn’t feel conditional. If affection, attention, or basic kindness is withdrawn as a form of control or punishment for their displeasure, it indicates a manipulative, unhealthy dynamic.
14. They Exploit You Financially.
This comes in many forms: pressuring you into unequal financial situations, “forgetting” their wallet suspiciously often, or expecting you to be their primary financial source without reciprocating. These tactics indicate a concerning disregard for your well-being.
15. You Feel Isolated.
They discourage relationships with friends or family, subtly put down your existing support systems, or try to make you feel dependent solely on them. Isolation is a common tool in abusive or manipulative relationships, not loving ones.
16. Your Needs Become Invisible.
You’ve expressed your emotional needs, yet they go continually ignored or invalidated. A loving partner should strive to understand your needs and make a genuine effort to meet them, within reason. Feeling unseen and uncared for is a sign of a relationship built on something other than true love…CONTINUE READING>>
