One of the basic human needs is connectedness, and we receive our greatest connection from our intimate relationships. We need this connection to feel a part of the world....CONTINUE READING
Without this type of connection, we feel isolated. The best way to improve this type of connection through effective communication. Also, one of the key elements in a healthy, happy relationship is communication, so it’s a good idea to understand what men want to hear from their women.
What guys want to hear is directly tied to their needs. Specifically, what guys like is to feel good by meeting their needs of certainty, significance, variety, love and connection, growth, and contribution.
1. Am so lucky to have you
If you’re feeling lucky in love, don’t keep those thoughts to yourself, tell your significant other exactly how you feel. “Men take great pride in feeling like they’ve bettered our lives, says Susan Winter, New York City-based relationship expert and dating coach.
Without the acknowledgement of his value, a man will feel useless and demoralized. Acknowledging his contribution to our overall happiness and wellbeing guarantees his continued desire to be a positive force in your life.
2. Honesty
Men want to hear honesty. This is a core truth about men; be honest with him and don’t try to be someone you’re not or portray yourself as someone you’re not.
Being able to be truthful is such an important (and increasingly rare) quality in any person.
3. Appreciation
Men want to be appreciated for who they are and what they are good at. Men also want to be appreciated if they do something nice for you that or if they did something they knew you liked.
Men want to be noticed and appreciated just like women do. Appreciation has to be genuine and can manifest itself in many different ways.
Cooking his favorite meal after a hard day at work is an example or taking time to put in effort into your appearance one day and wearing something you know he likes. Or just being kind and warm in a way that makes him feel good and happy.
4. “I Believe In You.
Yes, a lot of us are cocky and arrogant and have a world of belief in ourselves, but sometimes it’s nice to hear it from someone else, specifically someone close to us. Also, no matter how arrogant we may seem at times, we men can still get down on ourselves at times, so we need you to provide us with a pick-me-up to give us confidence and make us feel supported every once in a while.
5. I Love Being In Your Arms.
Obviously, this is a thing to say while cuddling, and it’s always nice to hear. For starters, it makes us feel like we have big strong arms that can hold you tight. Yes, it’s a little caveman-ish, but that’s just how we’re programmed. Also, as you may know, cuddling isn’t always our favorite activity, so it’s at least nice to know that you’re getting something out of it.
Men need to be appreciated, loved, and encouraged. Remember, meeting the needs of your man will help him to feel confident, secure, and grounded in your relationship.
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