My husband was living with his mother before we got married. Where to live after marriage became a hot topic while we were dating. I told him point-blank that I was not going to move in to live with him in the same house where his mother lived. He said, “Don’t worry about that, we’ll find a new place and live after marriage....CONTINUE READING
When the wedding date was getting closer, I brought up the topic again; “When are we going to start looking for a place to rent?” He said, “Martha, why don’t you reconsider? There’s a huge space in our house. Why do we have to move out and pay for accommodation when there’s some free space here?”
I told him, “If you continue living with your mom after marriage, I’m scared she’s going to continue to treat you as his son. We need our own space. Even if it’s small, we get to manage it until we get our own.
” He’ll understand me today but days later when we talk about it again, he’ll behave as though he didn’t understand what we discussed the previous time. It only meant one thing—after talking to him, he goes and discusses it with his mom too. It’s always about what his mom said or didn’t say.
Finally, he agreed that we’ll move out. We started looking for a place but didn’t get one before we got married. After marriage, it got harder to convince him to move. I told him I was not moving in with him and his mom until we got a place. One morning his mother called me.
She spoke to me for a while, convincing me to move in; “You both are married and have to live together. If you live apart, people might think I’m the one preventing you to come live here. Just come. When you get a place, you can move out.” So I moved in with them. Six months later, my husband had stopped talking about.
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