Here are 8 tiny signs the person you love is conceited:....CLICK HERE TO READ THE FULL ARTICLE>>>
1. They focus the conversation on themselves
One of the key ways to differentiate between confidence and conceit is to assess the level of interest a person has in you, as opposed to themselves. The confident person conveys an interest in others, while the conceited person focuses mostly on themselves.
Typically, the core of conceit is insecurity. Beneath a veneer of confidence, the conceited person feels insecure and therefore seeks constant approval and reassurance from others. By contrast, the confident person knows who they are and doesn’t seek constant approval from others.
When in a conversation, they are interested in who they’re speaking to and may not be the most polished conversationalist. Their goal is not your approval — their goal is to meet someone they like.
2. They never stop talking
Conceited people generally talk a lot. They can be entertaining and magnetic to a listener. At the same time, they are guarded and don’t ever say too much about themselves.
Confident people, on the other hand, understand that to be interesting is to be interested, so they engage easily with people around them, asking questions of you and remembering your answers later within an exchange.
They don’t need to redirect every conversation back to themselves, nor do they require your approval. This frees them to follow a conversation naturally and not drive it. Confident people tend to listen as much as they speak.
3. Their humor is at the expense of others
Conceited people’s humor is usually at the expense of others or sarcastic. By contrast, confidence allows for honesty about their interests and often the luxury of humor at their own expense. Confident people celebrate others’ successes, and their humor is more situational.
4. They’re constantly looking for approval
Conceit demands constant vigilance to audience approval, leading conceited people often to display closed and guarded body posture. Many conceited people struggle to stay focused on their audience, easily distracted by others’ actions around them.
By contrast, the body language of a confident person is open and engaged, and eye contact and attention during conversations are easily maintained. Confident people don’t require constant monitoring of others around them.
5. Their social media is almost too polished
Online profiles of conceited people are polished and well-marketed to catch a reader’s eye. Their email communication is practiced and engaging.
Remember, they are professionals at getting your attention. In contrast, online profiles of confident people are easy to read, straightforward, and even unpolished. They don’t try too hard, because they don’t need to.
6. They don’t make you feel good about yourself
People in the company of a conceited person often report feeling invisible, but they still desire that person’s attention and approval. By contrast, a confident person is an engaged conversationalist — as opposed to an entertainer — and easily makes people in their company feel heard, stimulated, and often more confident themselves.
7. They speak negatively about others
Conceited people tend to speak poorly about others. They are judgmental and will point out all the mistakes and flaws in others — especially when those people excel. Conceited people are very uncomfortable when the spotlight is on anyone other than themselves.
A confident person can celebrate other’s successes and let the other person have the attention for a job well done or an accomplishment.
This doesn’t mean that a confident person never feels disappointed when they don’t achieve their goal first. What they do differently is that they look at personal improvement instead of criticizing, blaming, or judging the other person.
8. They speak negatively to others
Conceited people tend to be arrogant. They think they are better, more important, and more worthy than others. And because of this, they will frequently speak disrespectfully to others. (They also regularly treat others disrespectfully.) On the other hand, confident people know that people are people.
No one person is intrinsically better than another. Confident people tend to speak to people in ways that are appropriate and respectful. You may have noticed as you read through the descriptions above that you’re thinking of other words to describe the behavior. There are many other words we might choose to label a conceited person:
- Narcissist
- Egotist
- “Princess” or “prima donna”
- Self-centered
- Vain
- Spoiled
- Self-absorbed
- Mean-spirited
- Jealous
- Judgmental
- Arrogant
Regardless of the word you choose to label the behavior, a conceited person by any other name is still conceited. And certainly not worth spending your precious time to date. How can you tell if someone is conceited? Let your gut speak to you.
Determining whether your date is confident or conceited is critical before moving forward. Thankfully, the answers are usually within us.
The charm of a conceited person can be deceptively attractive. Sometimes, we just don’t want to see what we’re seeing. Be honest with yourself by using the above guidelines to take a broad look. In the end, go with your gut to determine yay or nay on whether to move forward in dating this person.
By allowing yourself to assess the person with your instincts and thoughts, rather than just your feelings, you’ll gain more relationship self-esteem. Tapping these deep-seated truths is always your best source of knowledge…CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLE>>>
