Sometimes, couples do many things without knowing their effects on their marriage. Here are 5 subtle things that can ruin a marriage, as well as how to avoid them before it’s too late....CONTINUE READING

1. You are no longer dating.

Affection is like a flame. If we don’t take care of it, it will decrease and eventually die out. Dating your partner is a purposeful way of fueling the fire of love. Make it a point to date your wife regularly. Make time for each other regularly to accomplish things you both enjoy. It doesn’t have to be spectacular or impressive; it just has to be intentional.

2. Your children are everything to you.

Your children are vital. But keep in mind that your relationship with your wife precedes your children and will continue long after they have moved out. However, many of us believe that being a good father entails devoting all of our time and attention to our children while neglecting our marriages.

The truth is that you and your wife do not move apart. Your affections are just shaped by the rhythms you develop. And your rhythms are all centered on your children.

Create purposeful connection rhythms with your partner. This may be as easy as drinking a cup of coffee on the porch on Saturday mornings, checking in each night as you go off to sleep, or going for a walk sometimes. It doesn’t have to be fancy; it might just be ordinary.

3. You keep detailed records of everything.

Remember that time she did something that upset you? How did you go about it? Even if we say we’ve moved on, we tend to hold on to those things. Holding on to the ways our women have injured us is not a good thing.

Forgiveness is something you should work on. Forgiveness is a choice to let go of something you have a right to hang onto, not something you do because of how you feel. You need to practice forgiveness if you want your marriage to be healthy.

4. You do not develop.

Consider the periods when you aren’t at your best. It usually happens when you’re exhausted, unwell, anxious, or furious. However, if you aren’t healthy, you won’t be able to have a healthy marriage.

I understand that you don’t have much time. That’s OK. You make time for the things that are essential to you. Investing in your personal growth, whether through reading, acts of worship, exercising, or counseling, is an investment in your marriage. You will be a better spouse if you improve as a person.

5. You don’t listen

Inattentive husbands are so widespread that they’ve become a stereotype. But, unfortunately, our spouses often give us everything we need to know about the state of our marriages. We’re simply too preoccupied or indifferent to pay attention. Our wives will learn that we don’t value them or care about what they have to say if we don’t listen well. This devaluation finally results in a loss of intimacy and a breakdown in connection.

Listening is a difficult but necessary job. We need to develop the habit of active listening, which involves looking her in the eyes, putting our phones down, repeating what she says, and exhibiting genuine concern for her issues. Listening is also a form of love. So pay attention.

Do you have any other tips to add to this list? Please let us know your thoughts.

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